بِسْمِ اللَّـهِ الرَّحْمَـٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Before I was a mother, time flew by. Now that I am a mother, well let's just say goodbye to that 1 hour of chill time! As you can imagine and as you know if you are already a mother, you will understand that life is pretty hectic. There are times when you feel so swallowed up by the amount of chores you have to do, that when it comes to worshipping Allaah, it unfortunately feels like it is a chore within itself. But InshaAllaah I have a few tips I'd like to share which have helped me in dealing with this problem.
Start the day with Allaah.
The most important part of starting your day is making the fajr prayer. It can be so difficult but aside from the fact that it is obligatory upon us, it is such an amazing start to the day. As it was narrated by Aisha, may Allaah be please with her, that Allaah’s Messenger (salallaahu alayhi wa'salam) said:
“The two (sunnah) rakah of fajr are better than the world and whatever it contains.”
[Ahmed 26346, Muslim 725, Nisai 1755]
If you're excused from prayer, maybe get up and do the morning adhkar. This will help you in keeping up the pattern of getting up, instead of you having to re-adjust once your back to praying again. Make sure you do your morning and evening adhkar anyway. By Allaah you will find such barakah in your time. The morning/evening adhkar have made such an impact on my day mentally, spiritually and physically, subhanAllaah. And remember Allaah loves the continuous smaller deeds.
Learn to Prioritise.
Again I know it's so hard with that overwhelming list of "things to do," but try to work yourself around Salah as this is the priority. Allaah subhana wa'talaa says:
"I have not created the jinns and humans except that they worship me alone." [51:56]
So try and drop everything (except the baby of course) and make those prayers. After that then you know what needs to be done and what can wait. Give yourself realistic goals and make sure you get done of that boring checklist (checklists are really helpful by the way!) so you can move on to point 3.
Give Yourself Some "Me Time".
Pamper yourself, make a nice bath, read a book, do some shopping, whatever it is, make some time during the day to give yourself a well earned break. It will give you something to look forward to and motivate you to get things done!
Multitask When Possible.
Multitasking is something we women have been blessed with alhamdolilah, so utilise this ability to get closer to Allaah azza wa jal as much as possible. I use this ability often whilst cleaning and cooking, by making dhikr and du' a. My favourite thing however is to read the morning and evening adkhar to my daughter whilst putting her to sleep. Not only do you benefit yourself, but you are benefitting your child and putting them to sleep all at the same time!
Use Time Keeping Tools.
Tools are a great way to help you keep physical track of what you're doing. You can see your progress and such tools help further motivate you to get things done. Here's a few tools that I have found beneficial.
- Checklists - a common tool but helpful nonetheless.
- The Busy Mums Worksheet by Productive Muslim - This is made for Ramadhan specifically but you can use this throughout the year. It addresses everything in this post by providing a timetable for us mums to follow. It's really useful MashaAllaah and you can download the worksheet here.
- QamarDeen - An app that "lets you track all your daily spiritual efforts." I've been using this for 2 weeks now and its had some positive effects on my salah and getting those sunnah prayers in, alhmadolilah .
Personally for me, there is so much more to improve when it comes to managing time but for now these 5 things have been most helpful, InshAllah you find them helpful too.